Would You Like to Leave Your Comfort Zone?
The term Comfort Zone is a very popular word in self-help books and life coaching. “You need to leave the comfort zone”, we often hear in different areas of society: private life, relationship, self-development, sport, work, politics, etc.
But, did you ever wonder, what does it mean to be in the comfort zone? What is that zone? And what does comfort you in that zone?
Confronted With the New
Recently the whole structure of my family, I’m surrounded by on the daily basis, massively changed. A few days ago the core of my family was made by my husband and me, and our three cats, and tons of golden dust day geckos. On the New Year’s Eve of 2018, we made a surprising discovery.
On my husband’s motorcycle, Honda ST that is put to winter sleep and therefore covered by a tarp, we found a little cat that was in terrible shape: thin like a piece of paper, with dirty fur and bare skin shining through his thin coat.
His or her age was hard to estimate. Only the clear eyes have let us think that it could be a young cat. Cats which are hanging out at the East Coast of Hawaii are often bitten by fire ants which love to bite them in the eyes. Therefore, most of older cats here have cloudy eyes.
This little thing looked so sad as if he had experienced lots of struggles and pain in his short life.
Accepting and Welcoming Changes
Our three cats are in fact our neighbor’s cats. They moved over to us one after another. We helped them with different health issues, dewormed them, gave them roof over the head. All of them are outdoor cats what means that they are their own lords. They can go wherever they want to but they love to hang out with us.
Of course, this have a negative impact on our relationship with our next-door neighbors. Therefore, we tried to find a way how the cats would go back. We know only a few pieces of the story why the cats migrated to us. And, after eight months of back and forth, we arranged with the situation and the cats stayed with us.
The three cats had some issues with each other, so we invested time to help them to tolerate each other. When I saw the little one for the very first time, I thought, he may stay with us for a night or two and then vanish silently as he came. Because the one night I saw one another cat there, I wondered if his mother brought him to us to get help.
He rejected the food we offered him. And because he looked so terrible skinny and sick, I thought that he might have come to us to die.
The next day was a New Year’s Day, and the little guy was still sitting on the Honda, watching everything that happened around him. We couldn’t touch him, he was hissing, and we couldn’t offer help in any way. So we waited on what would happen next.
Finally, he made an approach on his own, and before we could think about any strategies to introduce him softly into the group, he was fearless walking around trying to make contact on his own. The touch we gave him and the dry place to be, helped him to completely transform in no time!
We named him Honda after the motorcycle we have found him on.
Unfortunately, all three cats rejected him hissing at him and Buddy, our oldest really gorgeous looking cat even hit him. Monki, a beautiful Siamese ran away and stayed away.
Mocca, another awesome looking Siamese stayed around but avoided any closer contact with the newcomer. Buddy also quit eating his food.
Letting Go the Old
This morning I asked my husband if he would give Honda away to get our three cats back. He smartly returned my question: “Would you?” “No!” I said. “Honda will stay. We helped those guys to heal, gave them a roof and good food. They are spoiled. If they want another home, they can leave. They are beautiful, and it is easy for them to find somebody who likes them. They can go to their prior owners too. This little guy really needs help. I’m actually in some way embarrassed, seeing these spoiled beauties and this ugly looking poor thing. Somebody needs to take responsibility.” Don’t get me wrong. I love those cats. However, in this act of unconditional love, I needed to let them go.
We started to envision the changes Honda confronted us with. We detected several benefits, improvements, and chances. All was good!
You may wonder what the story has to do with a comfort zone and how it answers the questions addressed above?
What Is a Comfort Zone?
A comfort zone is a system you created to deal with the outer world. It describes how you feel and think, what you do, how you do it and when, how you interact with others, also animals, and who is around you in your daily life. It implements all your decisions and choices you make every day.
A comfort zone may be very comfortable for you or let you suffer a lot. It doesn’t really make a difference. It is what you built, know, accept and are used to. It is a pool of different habits of thinking, feeling and acting, you once installed for a good reason.
Mostly the pressure to leaving a comfort zone points a certain period of life, where we know we need to change to move on in the direction we want to go. This morning I understood that the comfort zone is much more than that.
Stop Walking in Your Old, Worn Shoes!
It is like walking in old, worn shoes which don’t serve you well anymore.
Like the little Honda who, though little and sick, but fearless tried to become friends with the big boys and got rejected, I leave the new and fresh in my life. I’m welcoming the unknown structure that still needs to emerge every single moment and then pass by.
I learned from one of my big teachers, Bill Harris, that, it is the resistance that let us suffer. When you let the resistance go, all suffering also vanish, and you can face a new beautiful world surprising you with his gifts.
Honda is a new beginning for us and a symbol of change.
Would you like to start fresh? What is the beginning for you?
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